Thank you for this. I also relate with how my queer relationships have been more hectic than the relationships I had with straight men before transitioning. I expected men to be violent, and my extremely high standards made me find the few ones who weren't. Then, transitioning made me unable to date outside of the queer community basical…
Thank you for this. I also relate with how my queer relationships have been more hectic than the relationships I had with straight men before transitioning. I expected men to be violent, and my extremely high standards made me find the few ones who weren't. Then, transitioning made me unable to date outside of the queer community basically (and I'm not saying I miss dating straight men, I do not), and that's where I lived manipulation, gaslighting, and betrayals. I thought queer people couldn't be that violent or cruel, as you thought women couldn't. It still makes me sad that the three exes I don't talk to at all are all queer, two of them are trans. And they were soooo shitty and violent to me. And I don't know what narrative they make up about me.
Thank you for this. I also relate with how my queer relationships have been more hectic than the relationships I had with straight men before transitioning. I expected men to be violent, and my extremely high standards made me find the few ones who weren't. Then, transitioning made me unable to date outside of the queer community basically (and I'm not saying I miss dating straight men, I do not), and that's where I lived manipulation, gaslighting, and betrayals. I thought queer people couldn't be that violent or cruel, as you thought women couldn't. It still makes me sad that the three exes I don't talk to at all are all queer, two of them are trans. And they were soooo shitty and violent to me. And I don't know what narrative they make up about me.