oof. while I deeply resonate with the stories (I too am an expert at what Marcia Brzezinski calls desire "smuggling"), the idea of expressing desire as opening to the possibility of humiliation deepens my understanding of the phenomenon. thank you for that. this remains an area of deep inquiry for me, sharing some thoughts in case they are helpful for others feeling into the radical potential of desire: https://citizenstout.substack.com/p/the-audacity-of-desire
HOMIEEEE, "Sometimes I make some kind of fractured attempt, circling around what I’m trying to say. Sometimes I act extremely and unnecessarily weird, making an abnormally big deal out of the situation, only to finally spit it out and have the person say — “that’s it? that’s the thing?”. Very often, I have to returned to the desire later because I couldn’t say it at the time."
Your words elaborate on a specific layer of depth in the experiences and feelings I've had for so long, yet I never realized it existed until reading your writing. Your writing is full of gems.
Thank you for this, Clementine.
oof. while I deeply resonate with the stories (I too am an expert at what Marcia Brzezinski calls desire "smuggling"), the idea of expressing desire as opening to the possibility of humiliation deepens my understanding of the phenomenon. thank you for that. this remains an area of deep inquiry for me, sharing some thoughts in case they are helpful for others feeling into the radical potential of desire: https://citizenstout.substack.com/p/the-audacity-of-desire
"desire smuggling" is a fantastic term. thanks for sharing your post; looking forward to reading it.
credit to Marcia! (I felt very seen... sadly :-( https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/desire-smuggler/
HOMIEEEE, "Sometimes I make some kind of fractured attempt, circling around what I’m trying to say. Sometimes I act extremely and unnecessarily weird, making an abnormally big deal out of the situation, only to finally spit it out and have the person say — “that’s it? that’s the thing?”. Very often, I have to returned to the desire later because I couldn’t say it at the time."
Your words elaborate on a specific layer of depth in the experiences and feelings I've had for so long, yet I never realized it existed until reading your writing. Your writing is full of gems.