It’s so funny to read this when it so intimately connects to how I started reading your work in the first place-I wanted to support a canceled loved one and my therapist suggested your work.
"If any criticism or feedback triggers him into the embodied experience of being dehumanized, shamed, and exiled, he will really struggle to listen to criticism or feedback". This is probably the most important take about cancellation (even if one denies the huge impact on the person being cancelled): it is not effective, period. I have seen this is many instances, and there is no other way around it. Real change comes from community, relationships. Never isolation
this : "The choice for the cancelled person seems to be: Either I am an irredeemable monster or I have done nothing wrong. The truth is: All human beings have learning to do. None of us are irredeemable monsters.", wow
It’s so funny to read this when it so intimately connects to how I started reading your work in the first place-I wanted to support a canceled loved one and my therapist suggested your work.
"If any criticism or feedback triggers him into the embodied experience of being dehumanized, shamed, and exiled, he will really struggle to listen to criticism or feedback". This is probably the most important take about cancellation (even if one denies the huge impact on the person being cancelled): it is not effective, period. I have seen this is many instances, and there is no other way around it. Real change comes from community, relationships. Never isolation
This is so tender and loving. Beautiful perspective. Thank you.
Your voice is so important. Thank you for what you do.
this : "The choice for the cancelled person seems to be: Either I am an irredeemable monster or I have done nothing wrong. The truth is: All human beings have learning to do. None of us are irredeemable monsters.", wow