Thank you for writing this! The part about self-betrayal was so familiar, and the explanation about people projecting their un-palatable emotions into another person makes so much sense. Very recognisable!
Ps didn't mean to bombard you with comments in 3 places, but this seems the most appropriate (and final) one.
I did this in some ways in my marriage, and it was a contributing factor to the dissolution of said marriage. Unraveling this pattern and learning how to take responsibility for my own emotions made me a better man, a better person. I recommend it for everyone.
I have read this and reflected this morning on how I was guilty of doing this to the person I loved the most. I destroyed the most deep connection by being "that guy" expecting to not own the feelings that were actually mine. I projected them onto her and for that I could not be more sorry. I hope if anyone like that ever comes along again, I can truly cherish the deepest connection of friendship that is the root of my true desire with people without doing this to another person. I'm still thankful for what we had while we had it.
This is wonderful. I’ve been thinking about a lot of these topics lately. Had “Mad Woman” on repeat this morning. Thank you for your work.
Thank you for writing this! The part about self-betrayal was so familiar, and the explanation about people projecting their un-palatable emotions into another person makes so much sense. Very recognisable!
Ps didn't mean to bombard you with comments in 3 places, but this seems the most appropriate (and final) one.
Very well stated, as always.
I did this in some ways in my marriage, and it was a contributing factor to the dissolution of said marriage. Unraveling this pattern and learning how to take responsibility for my own emotions made me a better man, a better person. I recommend it for everyone.
I have read this and reflected this morning on how I was guilty of doing this to the person I loved the most. I destroyed the most deep connection by being "that guy" expecting to not own the feelings that were actually mine. I projected them onto her and for that I could not be more sorry. I hope if anyone like that ever comes along again, I can truly cherish the deepest connection of friendship that is the root of my true desire with people without doing this to another person. I'm still thankful for what we had while we had it.