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Bex's avatar

In my twenties I experimented with polyamory and it left a really bad taste in my mouth. For years I associated polyamory with toxicity and general bs. Only recently have I re-examined that feeling. Were my monogamous relationships at that time any less toxic? Absolutely not. I didn't value myself and I did not set healthy boundaries. Additionally, it's a lot easier to find the toxic "serial daters" who don't have interest in healthy relationships, because those people spend the most time on dating apps and trying to meet new people. They are pretty easily weeded out when boundaries are set and stuck to, but I had not learned how to do that yet (I say easily, boundaries are not easy, but they will show their true colors quickly if you stick to them). I never found a healthy, mutually respectful poly relationship, and maybe that's okay for me, but I wish I had this perspective then. Thanks for always helping me examine my preconceived notions and consider a new perspective.

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Leah's avatar

Thank you SO much for this. It's really helpful. Personally, I felt trapped in my monogamous relationships, and feel more secure in my present polyamorous relationship. I don't have any other partners yet, but going from monog to poly with my partner has made me feel so much better, more free.

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