DAMMMMNNN. Was just talking with a mentor today about a recent realization, that I struggle with a sense of having been sacrificed as a child. And then you drop this a few hours later! Thank you! Truly meaningful and powerful.
So brilliant. Emotional incest confused me about which feelings were mine and which were my mother's. Part of the purpose of abuse is to make someone else a storage container for your unbearable feelings. So the victim is holding the perpetrator's shame as if it were their own. (In addition to everything else you described.) As a person of Jewish heritage, I am so angry and sad at how Israel and its supporters are re-enacting our historical trauma.
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DAMMMMNNN. Was just talking with a mentor today about a recent realization, that I struggle with a sense of having been sacrificed as a child. And then you drop this a few hours later! Thank you! Truly meaningful and powerful.
So brilliant. Emotional incest confused me about which feelings were mine and which were my mother's. Part of the purpose of abuse is to make someone else a storage container for your unbearable feelings. So the victim is holding the perpetrator's shame as if it were their own. (In addition to everything else you described.) As a person of Jewish heritage, I am so angry and sad at how Israel and its supporters are re-enacting our historical trauma.