As forcefully as the moment demands

On boundaries, anger, and messy break ups

“Anger’s core message is a concise and potent no, said as forcefully as the moment demands.” — Gabor Maté

I went through four break ups this year and they were all messy. I absolutely hate messy break ups. I want to be calm, assertive, mature, graceful, and kind. I don’t want to get angry, hang up the phone, leave things without resolution.

Not only did …