Love Without Emergency #2 (Preorder)
Love Without Emergency is my most popular zine. I have sold more than 9000 copies. I've slowly been working away on the follow up for the last few years. It is finally coming together, and I plan to release it in September! Preorders help me fund the project, so if you want to see this work out in the world, I appreciate the preorder.
The follow up to Love Without Emergency shares what I have learned about navigating trauma, attachment, and polyamory in the three years since I put out the first installment. In particular, it focuses on disorganized attachment, having anxious tendencies with some partners, and avoidant tendencies with others. It feels like the other piece of the puzzle, offering more insight into the avoidant aspect, whereas the first installment focused more on the anxious aspect.
What if you're polyamorous, anxious as fuck with one partner, and unable to totally let other partners in? What if you have complex ptsd and feel fucking insane but you are committed to being poly? What if, years in, you still get nervous system flooded sometimes? What if you are realizing that you are way more avoidant than you thought? What if you want more intimacy and simultaneously push it away? What if your anxiety is part of your avoidance? These and many other questions will be explored!
Other things of note: Internal Family Systems and parts work in the context of polyamory. BDSM as a tool to work through jealousy. Grief. Boundaries. Self sabotage. All kinds of exciting things.
I will be fleshing out the final stages of it over the summer, to release in the early fall. Thank you for the support!