They don't even know they are tops and bottoms

Compulsory heteronormativity and consent

There's this moment when I'm in bed with a new person and we are kissing and touching each other and it seems like we are about to move into sex territory. I'll stop or they'll stop and we'll look at each other. This is when the check in happens. Usually, it’s pretty brief. Some things I’ll usually ask are: Are there ways you don’t like to be touched? Are there particular things you like? How will I know if you don’t like something or want to stop? Is there anything else I should know?