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Karen Rile's avatar

I became a paid member just to be able to tell you how much I value this essay.

Clementine Morrigan's avatar

Thank you for the support!

Kelsey Zazanis's avatar

This is absolutely groundbreaking work. This is medicine. This is a profound gift to me, to all survivors, and to the world. This is the missing puzzle piece. This floored me because it is precisely the answer I've been looking for. This needs to be so widely read. Thank you.

Clementine Morrigan's avatar

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Nicole Magelaki's avatar

I felt the same reading it. It put words to the feelings I was processing and having a hard time understanding on a cognitive level. I’m very grateful.

Felix's avatar

As always, you describe the indescribable. Your work is an invaluable gift to abuse survivors.

Corona Vitae's avatar

Hi! So happy to be here! I am off instagram and meta now because of the tik tok ban, and that redirection guided me to subscribe to your substack. Your writings and ideas are hyper important. I just watched 'Shiva Baby', and the feelings of humiliation between her and her mom and social circle were apt and evocative to me - I'd be curious what you think of it. xx much love and lifelong respect

tita seresa's avatar

This piece really struck a chord with me. I'm also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I hadn't previously thought about the humiliation that caused me.

II was fluent in Tagalog as a young child but upon arriving back to Australia I forgot most of it because my white grandmother got sick of not being able to understand me and told my parents I had to speak English when I saw her. Other than this, if you are "white/white passing" and you speak Tagalog, Filipinos will laugh which I think isn't meant in a malicious or unkind way but it makes me afraid to speak it, so I just understand but have this severe fear of speaking it and getting better at conversational Tagalog.

Shit is fucking hard. I hope you're able to work through what is blocking your ability to speak French. I believe you can do it 🩷✨️ Just gotta push through that discomfort and try to heal those parts that aren't allowing you right now. You got this!!!